Friday, October 26, 2007

I'm Here, Somewhere

Hey guys. Just a short note to say I'm doing ok. Life seems to have gotten very hectic, both professionally and personally. I feel like there's not enough time in the day to do anything, see anyone, etc.

Life goes fast, and I guess I'm just frustrated by it. Maybe if I'd get more disciplined I could find a way to fit it all in. Who knows. Regardless, I hope to be back to blogging more soon.

Friday, October 12, 2007

Belated National Coming Out Day

Yesterday was National Coming out Day. I meant to write a post about it, but I got tied up with work at the office and cleaning when I got home (J's parents are visiting this weekend, and his sister just moved out of our house last week, so we've got our hands full).

Anyway, I didn't want to miss the opportunity to make a post about the day, because I think it's important. Sure, it's just another day, but I never really took part in Coming Out Day in school when I should have, and coming out was such a positive event (series of events?) in my life, that I feel like it's important to at least acknowledge the day.

I honestly believe that coming out and no longer hiding my sexuality, my relationship with J, etc., has allowed me to be the person I am today. I'm sure I've said that before on this blog, but it's worth repeating.

Interestingly, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine that is in his younger thirties about being out the other day. He's not out at work or to his family, and thinks being out in those areas of his life will hinder his ability to be successful in business. He said it's a trust thing--that if people know he's gay, they won't trust him enough to create the bond that's necessary to do business together. I adamantly disagree, and I think he's living in the world he went to high school in--a world where that may have been true. These days I feel like he's just confused. I'm glad I've been able to leave those thoughts behind. Fretting about thoughts like that just isn't healthy for anyone.

Monday, October 01, 2007

It's a Small Blogging World

Life is slowly getting back to normal around here. Actually, I'd say I'm getting back to normal more than life is. My days are about the same as before my stepbrother died, but life in general has been considerably more hectic, more frenzied. I don't know if it's just coincidence or if my life is in more of an upheaval than I'm willing to admit, but I'm constantly swamped and have been for the last 3 weeks. I have such good intentions of getting my head above water, but so far it's been quite a challenge.

All that's just an update. Trust me, guys--I'm doing better, and doing well, all things considered. This post, though, has nothing to do with any of that.

I was over at Grace's blog today reading her posts on being gay and divorce and Christianity (and Grace, you beat me to the punch, I was gearing up to write similar ones), and I came across a comment from Rob, someone I hadn't seen before among her commenters. So naturally, I went to his blog to see what he was all about, and that's where the small world came in.

As a side note--you should check out Rob's blog. He's an interesting guy, and aside from that his photography is great.

So, on his blog, Rob has two links that sounded familiar to me. One was for Aaron. His blog (which hasn't been updated for a few months, and I must admit I haven't been to in probably a year) is one of the first blogs I started reading several years ago, even before I had my own blog. The second is for Steven. Steven's blog doesn't exist at that site anymore, but he used to update frequently and later had a photoblog that I couldn't get enough of. Steven's commented here several times and I actually have him as a friend on myspace, though we haven't chatted in quite a while.

Let me point out that neither Steven nor Aaron are part of the little ex-gay circle that I've found myself a part of for a number of years, which makes the connection that much more coincidental.

Who knew this blog thing could be such a small world? Neither Steven nor Aaron had/have blogs with huge readerships, yet somehow I've managed to run across another one of their regular readers. I'll add Rob to my regular reading list and complete the circle. It's the least I can do.