It's Not a Gay ThingBy now, I'm sure you've all heard about Idaho Senator Larry Craig's bout with lewd conduct in a public restroom. If you haven't heard, the Senator was arrested for tapping his foot in a restroom stall, which apparently is a sign to say that he was looking for sex. I'm personally surprised that Craig didn't choose to fight the charge. Whether they thought he was looking for sex or not certainly can't make it criminal to tap your foot in a bathroom stall. Craig ended up pleading guilty to a lesser charge of disorderly conduct to try to make the incident go away. It didn't, and now the Senator says he should have proclaimed his innocence.
While I think the arrest sounds pretty odd, the bigger issue for me is how much this has been referred to as a "gay sex" issue or a "gay scandal." I even saw a show last night where the segment about the incident was titled "The Issue with Gays and Public Sex."
Here's the problem--Senator Craig is married with a family and adamantly claims he's not gay. Even if he were trolling this bathroom for sex, this isn't a gay thing--this a problem for straight (or possibly bisexual) men that resort to having sex in public because they have no other way to do it.
In an interview with a police officer that handles these types of crimes, CNN uncovered that most of the perpetrators of public sex in situations like this are actually straight men with families. You see, gay people typically work just like straight people--they do these kinds of things in private. It's when a person is having to come to terms with his own sexuality that these types of problems start to come forward.
Now, all CNN and the other networks, and really anyone that is trying to be honest about this type of story, need to acknowledge is that this is a married man problem rather than a gay one.
These guys are living as straight men, not gay ones. If we're going to be honest about the story, we have to ask the question: "Why are straight married men looking for sex in public bathrooms." Maybe if we approached the issue honestly like that we'd get some real answers rather than pawning off another straight man as an example of what's wrong with all of the gays out there.